The Gay Wrestler: When Coming out of the Closet isn’t Really Coming out of the Closet

What does it truly mean for a celebrity to ā€œCome out of the closetā€ in the year 2013? I mean are they doing it for the general public or are they doing it for themselves? I pose this question on the day that WWE star Darren Young tells a conniving TMZ journalist with an Irish accent that he is indeed a homosexual while at the baggage claim of an airport. Wait hold on, let me backtrack a little. Maybe the first thing I should have said is that before today I had no idea who Darren Young was. Now I’ll know him as ā€œthe gay wrestler.ā€ In a very similar fashion before Orlando Cruz came out of the closet I had no idea who he was but now I know him as ā€œthe gay boxer.ā€ The latter is probably more noteworthy because I am an avid boxing fan but I will use the former to illustrate my point.

In his coming out video Darren Young answered the question of did he think a gay wrestler could be successful in the WWE to which Young replied; ā€œAbsolutely look at me…I’m a WWE superstar and to be honest with you I’m gay and I’m happy.ā€ Then the interviewer goes into this routine where he acts like he’s shocked. If anything he’s ā€œflabbergastedā€, as he said, because Mr. Young actually told him his personal business. It wasn’t because he didn’t already know that Young was gay before he met him at the airport to ask him that question. Are we to believe that TMZ always asks male professional athletes about their sexual preferences or did the gossip site have a little inside information?

At any rate I wanted to discuss the idea of happiness as it relates to gay celebrities. Darren Young stated that he was happy and to his credit he does look very happy in the interview. With that being said it’s hard for me to believe that he is somehow happier now that he’s admitted to some dude who works for TMZ that he’s gay. I think it’s important that any one who is gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning to tell their family and friends about what they are experiencing and who they really are on the inside. In essence I do understand the need for a gay person to come out of the closet, however, in the case of many celebrities it’s not a matter of them being in the closet at all, it’s just a matter of whether or not they want to tell millions of strangers what they prefer in the bedroom.

I’m sure Darren Young has done whatever he wants sexually with whom ever he wants for a very long time so why should that impact his professional life in any way shape or form? I honestly think that his life will be a lot worse now. What I mean by that is before some guy from TMZ put him on the spot after waiting for him in the baggage claim of an airport and asked him a question that he already knew the answer to he was able to create his own public image, now he will be dubbed ā€œthe gay wrestlerā€ for all eternity.

I can see how the interview will benefit TMZ, I can see how it will help launch the career of the mystery man behind the camera, but I don’t see how this will make Darren Young’s life any better.

 

So what do you think? Drop a few lines below.

-YB

Parisian Customs -A photo story

After spending three days in London I was blessed enough to be able to travel to Paris for the weekend. Here are a few pictures that I took during my weekend in France.

"Help us"

“Please help us” The Roma people also known as Gypsies have it very rough in Paris. This family begs for change right outside of a bustling shopping district.

American Gospel Choir is coming to Paris!

American Gospel Choir is coming to Paris!

Love Padlocks

Love Padlocks at the La Seine River

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I hope Nikita and Liza are still together.

A Brick

“A Brick” with tomatoes, eggs, ham, and cream.

Oh the irony

Oh the irony

Accordions aren't dorky in France

Accordions aren’t dorky in France

Street show

Street show above Republique Metro Center

One of my African brothers getting his hustle on

One of my African brothers getting his hustle on in front of the Eiffel Tower.

"How to Steal a Million Dollars"

“How to Steal a Million Dollars” starring Audrey Hepburn was played in the plaza directly adjacent to the Eiffel Tower on my last night in town.

Upstairs at The Ritzy

 

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I must confess that London and I got off to a very bad start. I was initially very excited to finally leave America and experience the world outside of East Oakland, CA USA. After the heinous murder of 8-year-old Alaysha Carradine, the kidnapping of another 21 month old girl, and the unrest after the travesty of justice that led to George Zimmerman being found innocent of murdering Trayvon Martin, I needed to get as far away from my ghetto as I possibly could.

I came to the United Kingdom for respite, but what I got was reality. Before I could officially set foot on foreign soil for the first time in my life this racist over zealous security agent spotted me; ā€œBlack man alert! Black man Alertā€ she must have thought. ā€œYou looked confused,ā€ is what she actually told me.

ā€œI’m searching for the exit,ā€ I said while thinking oh shit, here we go again. My instinct was right. This chick started interrogating me like she was training to be in the CIA. She asked to see my passport, what do I do for a living, where was I coming from, and ā€œOh you’re going to Paris? Paris is expensiveā€ then she looked at me with great consternation.

I didn’t say anything but eventually I asked her why this was happening. I mean I had already been questioned at the UK border and they approved me. I had the stamp on my passport to prove this but obviously my stamp wasn’t enough for her. Right after I asked her this question another agent positioned himself about 15 feet behind her. He was on the ready just in case I should get out of control. But I was cool, externally at least. She told me that she was with security and she could ask as many questions as she pleased. After a little more verbal sparring she finally let me go. As I walked to the underground I couldn’t help but to think about how ironic it was for me to be heading to the birthplace of modern racism for some kind of escape. I literally laughed out loud at the notion. The words fuck her resonated through my brain. I wasn’t going to let her take my joy away and I proved that by having an absolute blast in Brixton last night.

I went to an open mic event at a venue called Upstairs at The Ritzy. Brixton is like the hood area of London therefore I, being the lifelong ghetto dweller that I am, felt perfectly at home. The Ritzy is Brixton’s local movie theater and they reserve a room upstairs for artists to share their work. Now when I heard that there was going to be an open mic naturally I thought spoken word poetry—boy was I wrong. Everyone that got on the stage was a musician. The first five acts where all guitarist, damned good ones at that. One of them had a Bob Dylan contraption in the front of his face and played his harmonica while he strummed away on his guitar. There was a trio as well. The lead singer sang and played the guitar, there was a heavily tattooed sista with an afro singing back up, and a violinist in the group. They played a beautiful mixture of folk music and hip-hop. Needless to say I was enthralled the whole evening. I was also quite a bit puzzled. I wondered why does the open mic scene in the San Francisco Bay Area continue to be dominated by people who seem to be auditioning for a role in the movie Love Jones. I’m not saying Love Jones was a bad movie I’m only pointing to the fact that it came out over 15 years ago. Get over it people! We have way more to share.

At any rate, the open mic event in Brixton was amazing.Ā  It was precisely what I needed after that lame ass woman tried to hold me up at the airport. I’ve come to far to let racial profiling dictate my mood. My European adventure is officially underway. Stay tuned for more stories.

CHEERS! šŸ˜‰

 

-YB

 

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